Here's my new favorite photo. The O'Connor and Strasburg kids all together. I have wanted to write this post for awhile, but it has taken almost 2 weeks for me to be able to do it without bawling. This doesn't mean that there have not been plenty of tears.
I met Ryan and Katie O'Connor when Ryan and I first started dating. They quickly turned from good friends of his to good friends of ours. Katie was a heart nurse, so we had an easy connection from the beginning. In fact, I often felt bad for Ryan (O'Connor) as the 3 of us would talk "2 East" and nursing- knowing he usually had no clue what or who we were talking about. He would throw in random comments and always cracked us all up which was a subtle reminder that we could probably change the subject. I will never forget the time early on when we all went out to Johnny Carino's and Katie and I ordered the exact same thing, "spicy shrimp and chicken-NO mushrooms." From then on, the friendship between our families blossomed.
Ryan and Katie had their first baby girl Hayley in April 2005 and 7 months later we had Landon. What a joy it was to share our first baby experiences with each other and spend time together in Fargo. We had some great memories at the pumpkin patch and the little ones were all dressed up for Halloween together. Then we shared our unexpected news of being pregnant again with the O'Connors. I truly think that Katie was more surprised and scared for me than I was. Having a baby when you have just a baby at home is a very scary thing. Then there was the news that Katie was pregnant again. Although their babies were not going to be just 17 months apart, I felt comfort knowing she would be right there with me. In March 2008 we had our precious angel Kadence and 4 months later Ryan and Katie had sweet Lily. I remember seeing sweet Lily as a newborn in Fargo and being so sad that we were moving away to Sioux Falls. When Kadence was just 4 months old, we moved to Sioux Falls and just 5 months later the O'Connor's moved to Sioux Falls! How great was it to have such good friends back in town with us! Katie and I spent many days together chatting and watching our kids grow together. They had become such good friends it was heartwarming. Both of our families shared our first family camping experience with one another and it was great. Then we found out Katie was pregnant again. This was sort of a shock for them and we had been through the exact same thing with all the emotions just two years before. Sweet baby William was born in May 2010 and 6 months later we had Kenzie.
We do not have any other friends that we have shared so much of our lives with. Katie and I were pregnant together with all 3 of our babies, that's amazing. Both of our families went through a big move with small children and we always had each other for support. Ryan and Ryan remained the good friends they always were and Katie and I built a friendship that will last a lifetime. Our kids enjoyed all the play dates and I know that Hayley, Lily, and Baby Will became a part of our daily life. When we weren't spending time with them we were talking about them and being excited for the next time we would see them. The O'Connor's house was our outlet when we were stuck inside, especially when Kenzie was tiny (and very high maintenance). Katie was a great support for me when I was stressed out about Kenzie and was a God send while going through a very stressful time with Ryan finishing up school.
Then came the next big news. The news that for the first time we wouldn't be sharing together. We were moving back to Fargo. Although we were very excited it was a very bittersweet time knowing we would be doing it without the O'Connors. I tried not to think about it too much because it made me too sad. All of the sudden the time had come and gone and it was time for us to move. We had spent so much time together that I knew it would be nothing but a difficult goodbye. The very last day we played at the O'Connor's house while our movers were loading us was also bittersweet. The kids really had no idea what it meant for our families, but I know that Katie was just as sad as I was and thinking the same thoughts all morning. Then Hayley gave Landon a picture she had colored for him and I had never saw such excitement from him. He went over to her and gave her a big hug and said, "Hayley, I Love You." It was so innocent, so sweet, and oh so very sad. As Katie and I both observed the same action we looked at one another and then quickly looked away with tears in our eyes.
Friends like the O'Connors don't come and go, they are forever. It's not like we won't see them ever again, or won't talk to them often. It just won't be the same. But often life takes you in different directions, away from the people you love most. I know that we are where we should be right now and that although we may not spend as much time together, we will still have a great family friendship with the O'Connors. We will cherish the times we do spend together and find comfort in the plans of the next get together.
Ryan and Katie-Thank you for all the support, all the good times together, and all of the memories. We love you all so much!